Divorce is hard on everyone involved. It’s especially difficult for children because they often feel confused and hurt by the situation. They may also worry about losing a parent, or experience changes in their family life.
Explaining to your child that you are getting divorced can be an overwhelming prospect. Every child is different and will respond to the news in different ways. There is no foolproof way to approach this topic, but here are five tips that will make the conversation a bit easier.
- Explain Why You Want to Separate. If you’re thinking about getting a divorce, it’s important to calmly and logically explain to your child why you want to separate. Doing so helps them understand what’s happening and gives them some sense of control in the situation.
- Be Honest. If you’re going through a tough time in your marriage, it’s important to be as honest as possible talking to your child about what’s happening. There is no need to share every detail with your child, but you should answer any questions they have and be as up front as possible so they can process what’s happening.
- Talk About Finances. If you’re planning to get divorced, it’s important to talk to your kids about money matters as early as possible. You’ll want them to understand what happens to your finances if you split up and how this might affect their current living arrangements or lifestyle.
- Make Room for their Feelings. Children may have a wide range of responses to the news that their parents are getting divorced. These can range from anger to sadness to fear to apathy or confusion. No matter how your child reacts, do your best to make space for their feelings, hear them out, and answer any questions they may have.
- Be Patient. It’s also important to remember that children will often react differently than adults to difficult situations. They might not understand why something is happening, or they might feel angry or sad. This is normal. You should try to remain calm and patient as you talk to them. It may take your child weeks, months, or even years to adjust to your divorce.
This blog does not constitute legal advice. If you are going through a divorce or considering getting divorced, consult the experts at Sandoval Family Law.